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I don’t care much for games or puzzles in the traditional sense. It’s because it slows me down from what I really want; a successful resolution. And I really don’t like playing games that I could lose. (Thus, as a computer gamer, why I tend towards watching playthroughs or looking up cheat codes, just so I can see the storyline of the game and how it ends. I don’t want to be bogged down by the actual gameplay. 😛 Just bein’ real here!)
Maybe that’s why as a kid, I did enjoy the occasional group game with friends and neighborhood kids. I didn’t feel like I lost all that often. You know, the old-fashioned running games that kids used to play outdoors? I liked dodge ball, tag, Ships Across the Ocean, Red Light-Green Light, and other such games. The reason being that because there were several others playing, I learned how to let the other kids get caught first while I could usually escape unscathed and thus, ‘win’ several times in a row.
One children’s game is called Mother (or Captain) May I? There is one player who is the ‘mother’ or ‘captain’ across from the rest of the kids. The other kids ask one at a time if they can make a particular move (such as skip forward for five seconds or take the three biggest jumps forward that they can, etc.) – the mother or captain can allow it or change it at their discretion – the goal being to be the first kid to reach the mother or captain and win.
I’m not bringing this up to reminisce about my childhood. The point being that sometimes to win and to achieve your goals, you need permission. This might even be permission from yourself, rather than someone else.
This past week I got an email from another blogger I follow, Jillian Johnsrud. She was writing about the permission slips of life. Not actual pieces of paper that have to be signed by someone, but the permission we seek from ourselves or others we respect and admire before we finally take action. In her case, she wanted to give herself permission to spend two hours a day writing, working on her book.
I thought the idea of a permission slip was BRILLIANT and I promptly asked her if I could actually take that idea and make permission slips out of it. She agreed, so I put something together.
See, so often in life we have plans and goals; dreams and wishes, hopes and ambitions – and yet we fritter our lives away in the day-to-day mundane and never actually take action. Another day going by turns into another month lost, or another year behind us, and still our dreams that could be ours lay unfulfilled.
Why do we do that to ourselves?
I don’t know.
Maybe it’s fear holding us back. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of failing, and never finding out your full potential or being thought a fool for even trying. Fear that we will waste our efforts and our time on something that could have been better spent. Fear of being successful and being afraid that it won’t be what you want it to be. Maybe it’s even a fear of being successful and finding out that it is what you wanted, but to truly accept such a momentous challenge, you will need to change with it.
But isn’t it better to try and at least see what happens?
Otherwise, where are you six months from now? A year from now? Five years later?
Still stuck? Still wishing things could be different? Still wondering why life seems unfulfilling when you can envision your dreams so clearly? Still wishing you could muster up enough courage to take action, to overcome inertia and begin?
This is for you: if you have been waiting for that permission, that nudge to get started, for someone else to say it’s ok to pursue your dreams, here’s a basic permission slips printable for you. It has two formats; the first when filled out, may look like this: (Name) has permission to (do the cool thing) for (length of time) (how often). The second is much the same, but in the first-person. Both versions have a spot to sign it. You can sign it, you can get a friend or family member to sign it – heck, I don’t care, forge the signature of one of your heroes that you admire and pretend you have their permission, if that’s what you need.
But don’t let any more time slip away from you.
If you need permission, get it. And then act on that freedom.
If you need help overcoming a fear first, contact me. Or leave a comment below. I’m all about helping people overcome their fears and live a more fulfilling, courageous life. I want to see you succeed too. Use my signature in the permission slip if that helps.
What will you do after you get that permission?
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